An Attitude of Gratitude

These past few weeks have trying to say the least. At home, dealing with a pre-teen child who thinks the rules don’t apply to him. At work, with an ever-increasing workload and seemingly endless amount lately of rude patients. It’s frustrating and I get angry. But I read in my personal development this week about having an attitude of gratitude.

When we are in a pissy mood, down and just want to complain, remembering the things you are grateful for can be uplifting. I usually take time in the morning to journal and always write a list of five things I am grateful for. I’ve been through a lot this past year and remembering gratitude shifts my perspective back to what matters most. It’s so easy to complain about what we lack.

Five things I am grateful for: Having a car, Having a job, Having a place to live, My son and Family, and my boyfriend. Those may seem like trivial things to be grateful for. But I was homeless last year for several months, without my own vehicle, job, and a place to live. I could easily be thrown back into that life at any moment if I lost my job.

What things are you grateful for? Do you shift your mindset to positive thoughts when you are feeling pissy or down?

 

Being Authentic in a Digital Age

I’m pretty new to Instagram, otherwise known as “the gram”. Sure, I’ve used Facebook for about 10 years, but never really posted much due to fear of what others will think. “What would they think if I posted that selfie?” As I am currently in my new season of life, my mindset, beliefs, and way of living have changed. I am more confident IRL, but online, I am not.

It’s so easy to be completely overwhelmed by all content on IG and Facebook. It’s all about like and followers. We try to mute our true feelings, hopes and dreams, fears and failures. As if being a “normal” person is such a bad thing. Why is that? Do we want others to think we ‘have it all together?’. What if our fails and real lives inspire others? What if we can make a difference in others lives by just being ourselves?

There has been a gradual shift it seems in the past several years of folks being authentic, body positivity seems to be all the rage. Is this going to be a permanent thing? I hope so. No longer are posts about other people’s highlight reels, and one-sided political posts. It’s now sort of gravitated into the good and bad. We see people now for who they are, not who they want to be. This authenticity, I believe, gives others who are not so confident, the extra boost of hope they need to be their best selves.

So sit down and “clean up” your social media. Unfollow those people or businesses who make you feel like crap about your life. Take a social media fast for a day or so. Then come back and start living your authentic life.

Jumping into Personal Development

I made the decision several months ago to explore personal development. Not quite sure how it all started, but I think it was after researching podcasts as an alternative to music to listen to as I rode the bus and train to work. I had no idea that the people I was listening to were personal development or motivational speakers. What happened next was the start of a journey into self discovery and personal development. I started questioning how I responded to things in life and how I could improve my life for the better.

When I used to think of personal or self-development, I pictured old self-help books and sweaty motivational speakers. The old Saturday Night Live skit with the late Chris Farley portraying obnoxious motivational speaker Matt Foley. Or the slimy motivational speaker Frank Mackey in the movie Magnolia, as played by Tom Cruise. Nowadays, the culture of personal development is different, and the field is HUGE with the amount of talented and successful individuals whose passion is helping and inspiring others to be better versions of themselves.

The amount of free self-development online is staggering. In a way this is good and bad. Good in the sense that basically anyone can access quality content, but bad in the sense that there is also a lot of misinformation available as well. In order to weed out the good from the bad, you really need to research the authors and speakers. Like I mentioned in the beginning of this blog post, I started out listening to podcasts and branched out from there. Here are a few of my favorite self-development podcasts. These podcast authorsĀ also have great Instagram accounts, filled with motivational quotes, positivity, and more importantly, a sense of realness in which we all can relate in some way. There is no one size fits all approach to self-development.

Podcasts – Note: these are all available on iTunes.

  1. Rise Podcast with Rachel Hollis
  2. The Tony Robbins Podcast
  3. The Brendon Show
  4. Earn Your Happy with Lori Harder
  5. Style Your Mind with Cara Alwill Leyba
  6. Real Talk with Rachel Luna
  7. Rise Together Podcast with Rachel Hollis and Dave Hollis

There are so many other podcasts out there to explore. Just start with one you are interested in, and start listening. These podcasts deal with business development, entrepreneurship, and personal relationships.

Videos

When it comes to self-development, there are a slew of videos on YouTube. However, I really like documentary style videos that are edited and presented in a way that is emotionally moving and easy to understand. Here are two that I am re-watching right now: “Tony Robbins: I am Not Your Guru” on Netflix, and “Made For More” presented by Rachel Hollis on Amazon video.

The first time I watched “I am Not Your Guru”, I was crying at the end of the video. This was such a well done film. The documentary spans several days with Tony Robbins at his Date with Destiny seminar in Boca Raton, FL. I really liked how the film was unbiased and showed real people having real breakthroughs. The teachings that Tony Robbins presented were no nonsense, and easy to understand.

In “Made For More”, it was focused on interviews with Rachel Hollis and showed footage from her annual Rise Conference. The energy was incredible, Rachel is like a female version of Tony Robbins, no nonsense and just honest. Rachel’s story is incredible, how she built a company with no college degree, and is a working mom trying to inspire other women to live their best life.

Personally, these podcasts have been a lifesaver in terms of trying to live a more positive, meaningful life. In an age of negativity in media and bizarre reality TV Shows, its refreshing to see people out there trying to build up others. What if for once we really focused on how we can improve ourselves to be better people? Self-development isn’t selfish, its a necessity. What podcasts do you like to listen to? Who are your favorite personal development speakers or authors? Comment below.

When You Feel a Mental Block

My mind has been so unsettled lately. I started this blog off strong, but then I just sort of ran out of steam. What’s the deal? Well, I think it may be due to being mentally overwhelmed. I have spent the last few weeks researching blogging, trying to get followers, how to write good content. It was like information overload. Then I can’t write. The words don’t seem to come out.

I love google, and being able to find information on about anything for free. But at the same time, all this information is overwhelming to process. Then I get stuck in the comparison game, especially when visiting other blogs, Facebook or instagram. I have to remember that this blog is a newbie, it’s not going to be perfect at first. I’m not going to be completely consistent in posting new content. My pictures and layout may suck.

Truth be told, this past year has been a whirlwind of emotions and conflict, and I think that now I am finally settling down, it is time to process everything. My migraines have returned. Stress and anxiety over other issues I have swept to the side are resurfacing. I feel something shifting in me. The move to Florida was more than a change in physical location. It was a change in mindset. It has caused me to question who I am and who I want to become.

To help with handling all of this change, I started listening to self-development podcasts. I started praying again. I started seeing a therapist. I started listening to how my body was responding physically and took steps to get my health on track. When you go so long ignoring yourself both physically and mentally, trying to make things better seems like an uphill battle. I tell myself, “You have to take things one day, one thing at a time.” Nothing successful happens overnight. The situation you may be in right now is not going to last forever.

I really want to stress and share how important self-care is during a time like this. Just a few minutes out of the day to sit and chill out. Leave the phone in the other room and just relax. Take a shower, and drink some coffee. Pretty soon, the mental block starts to lessen. That weight on your heart starts to free up and you can write again.

What things do you do when you are feeling a mental block?